- the belief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others.
- The behavior of an animal that benefits another at its own expense.
We all do it. At some point, we all fall into that familiar, consistent pattern where every day feels exactly the same. Day in, day out. Wake up with the alarm, shower with coffee in hand, drop the kids off, punch the clock, homework, dinner….you get the idea. Life might start to feel a little mundane, perhaps a bit uninspired. In a sea of perceived tediousness, one could get pretty bored and start feeling as if they are not making any real contribution at all.
But is that truly the reality of things?
No. It is most gently and reassuredly not.
A tedious routine causes the mind to focus only on its immediate surroundings, leaving our keen observation skills by the wayside. The grand effect that the simplest of kind gestures has, often goes completely unnoticed. Rationally, it is usually because as the ripples of our chosen behaviors expand out across the pond of human interaction, we’re simply not present to see them. We’ve moved on to the next step of our routine.
It is thought, however difficult to measure, that a single act of random kindness at the beginning of any given day will continue to be paid forward and affect the lives of at least 10 individuals before the sun sets. Similar to Newton’s first law of motion which states that an object will remain at rest or move at a constant speed in a straight line unless it is acted on by an unbalanced force, the inertia and energy of a simple kindness will continue to move from one individual to another until it has encountered one who simply does not possess the fortitude, in that moment, to carry it forward. The beauty of this inconspicuous process, is that the final person to receive that flow of energy on that particular day, will most likely be the one who needed it the most.
Remember that elderly man who you let go in front of you in line for the bus on your way to work this morning? That gentleman took the warm smile that your gesture gave him and shared it with his grand-daughter’s 2nd grade class during a story he told about bravery, courage and pride in doing the right thing. The little boy in the front row remembered that story out on the playground where he extended a helping hand and a smile to a disabled little girl who had fallen when a group of distracted children barreled past her. That little girl, when taking a walk with her mother, found a pair of keys below the curb and handed them with a smile to the distraught young man who was trying desperately to break into his own car because his pregnant wife had called him from the hospital to say that it was time. That newborn child was greeted with the collaborative smile of people it might never get to meet and yet what an introduction to life! How marvelous is that?
Without ever realizing it, our simplest acts affect the world in often the most profound ways making our mundane existences not so mundane after all.
Our reward comes to us from Newton’s third law of motion which states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. The statement means that in every interaction, there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. In this case, that force is kindness. In other words, what goes around comes around.
It is the way of nature. Its how the universe works, whether we like it or not. So, let’s put some positive energy out there as often as we can and feel free to expect some in return.
Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.
– Franklin D. Roosevelt
I’d love to hear about how random acts of kindness have touched you. Tell me your stories in the comments section.